If you’re getting married, or know someone that is, then you may already be familiar with the idea of a first look. For those of you that don’t know, a first look is when the couple see each other before their ceremony. We are pretty big fans of the first look, and you can read more about why we love it here. However, not everybody feels the same way.

Many couples still want to be more traditional for their wedding and wait until the ceremony to see their spouse-to-be. However, they can still share a beautiful moment together before the ceremony without laying eyes on each other. Here are some of our ideas for an alternative to the first look.

Have a First Touch

If you want to see your partner before the ceremony, but still preserve some mystery and drama, consider doing a first touch instead of a first look. A first touch is where the couple can stand by each other without seeing one another (blindfolded, with their backs turned, or separated by a wall). They can then hold each other’s hand, embrace, or share a few words. This setup allows them to be close to each other without necessarily seeing each other face to face. It gives them a slightly more intimate moment than they’ll have surrounded by everyone at the ceremony and reception afterwards.

Share Your Vows or a Letter with Each Other

Write out a note or letter that expresses your feelings toward one another and excitement for the day. One of the best parts of these letters is that they can be as short or as long as you’d like them to be—you could go into detail about how much you love each other, it could be a funny story that reminds you of why you fell in love, or your personal vows. This note should not include anything logistical about the day. The purpose is to get those emotions flowing so they’re in full force when you see each other all dressed up and ready to go!

Pray Together

Pray with each other. This is an especially great alternative if you and/or your partner is religiously inclined. You could choose to start your day with prayer as a couple or join both of your families for a pre-wedding prayer session. It’s a special way to bring everyone together and ask for blessings in the marriage.

You could also include a more personal touch by combining the first touch that you have with each other with your letters, wedding vows, or prayer. This could be an excellent way to make the experience even more memorable.

Have a First Look with Your Dad/Mom or Bridal Party

How about a first look with your mom, dad, or other significant family member instead? This is an excellent way to calm pre-wedding jitters, and also provides a special time to connect with someone you are close with. A first look with your bridal party can also be an excellent choice—it’s sure to bring on the tears when you walk out of the dressing room and are met by the people closest to you.

Ultimately, you can have the same experience of a first look by choosing one of these alternatives. The decision is ultimately up to you, but remember that though the first look tradition may not be for everyone anymore, it doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to still have a special pre-ceremony moment. Our advice? Choose whichever option feels most comfortable for you and your partner. After all, it’s your special moment—you should enjoy it, no matter what form it takes.